Wife privilages

This post is inspired mostly by a post I saw over at Linda Ikeji's blog. This woman who is set to wed in October of this year just found out that her wonderful fiance was cheating on her and has fathered a child. What got me was not only did he cheat, he got the lady pregnant and he didn't tell his fiance all this when she first got pregnant or better yet, he never told his fiance that he was still sleeping with his ex!! We all know that had it been her who was still sleeping with her ex or had gotten PREGNANT there would be no wedding in October, that one would have just been canceled like immediately!! Why do women tolerate cheating men but men don't do the same? and whats this thing about " all men will cheat?" that's just a SORRY excuse for staying in a dead end relationship. Sometimes people stick themselves in relationships that they have no business being in then expect God to bless it for them. The one thing that took me by surprise was the fact that she actually moved in with the guy and she only met him in 09(and engaged 2 years later), and to add to it he was the first person she has ever slept with( which is why its probably making it harder for her to move on and make her decision on what to do, I'd call off that wedding in a quickness, virginity or not. I know its easy to say when your not in that person's shoes but still, going through with the wedding is even more painful then calling it off) That's where things get tricky. Moving in or cohabiting or whatever, with a man is only setting us females for disaster. You move in with the man , you  SLEEP with him, COOK for him, CLEAN up after him, and even have his CHILDREN, and you expect commitment? you expect him to give you a ring? Lets be real here, if someone gave you something for free, would you go back and tell the person "oh hey let me pay for it?". ( I know I wouldn't lol) So the same here applies for relationships/cohabiting. If I were a man and you gave me 'wife priviledges' without me having to work for them without me having to court/date you then I wouldn't commit and ask you to marry me. Simple as that. Crissy from Hip Hop wives even admitted that she " made it too easy for Jim". She new from the jump that Jim probably wasn't interested in marriage but she sat there for 5-6 years and made herself believe that he would come around to the idea, and now she found herself proposing to her man, can you imagine? A woman kneeling down to ask a man if he will marry her? Any real man will not feel comfortable with a woman proposing marriage to him. Moral of both stories is : Don't give a man wife privileges until he  puts a ring on your finger and has made that vow before God and man.