As 2009 is quickly coming to a close, I've been reflecting on the year and I've learned A LOT ( i didnt list it all though, some of the things ive learned are important n some are no so important :)
Ive learned that:
I'm getting old :) its okay though, with age comes wisdom ..right?! (say yes !)
Just because people get married it doesnt really mean they love each other. Now I dont know about u, but where I live, Nigerian couples seem to all be heading for divorce court oh. Hubby cheats ( and has been doing so for years!) wife kicks him out, wife takes the kids and slaps a divorce on hubby...thats the way it goes usually, and around my way most girls my age say they dont want to marry a naija guy for that reason...smh
Old men are pretty nasty. the 'I.dont.want.you' part is the part they seem hardest to comprehend.
If we ( my sister or friends/cousins) go to a party (naija) this is what we hear lmao: " em excuse me excuse me * annoying tap on shoulder* what is ya name? how can I know jyou( benin accent) or " chei, u are so looking like an angel" and "hey baby, are u talla dan me"? ( my sister got that one) and "hey longy! how are u? I mean I knew old men were nasty but na wa o.
Relationships are hard work. You now have to put that person ahead of you, they become your world, and then suddenly texting/calling seems like a chore!
Dressing provocatively doesnt attract good guys, I mean the ones that actually want to know YOU not your body...
Materialistic things and physical appearance even in all its glory and glitz doesnt last. Ive learned that its not what matters in life, other things are more important and striving for material things and perfect looks its a complete waste of time,theres absolutely nothing wrong with wanting designer clothes n what not or looking good, just gotta keep it perspective....
Nigeria has so much potential, if only the leaders could see that...
I lovee red velvet cupcakes :)
I dont want to be a house wife... ( no man will marry me, lai lai...lol)
Sex is a good thing,at the right time with the right person ( marriage hopefully)
Ogbono soup tastes better when you drink it with water not soda....
Alopecia has opened my eyes a whooolllleeeeeee LOT. I'm a different person because of it, its made me weak but at the same time its made me strong. Its given me low self esteem and its given me high self esteem...but it definately taught me a lot...
I want to be a philanthropist/lawyer/journalist/activist...I believe its possible, its a lot but I can do it ;-)
About Nigeria, Ive learned about its politics, the people, music, its issues and the food. Ive also come to love/hate many things about Nigeria. One thing I hate is the discrepancy between the poor and rich.I hate how governors and political figures or whatever get away with soo much; I dont want to sound as if Ive seen it ,but I mean Ive heard stories and things like that, I mean * insert the thieving benin mans name here, you know the one who messed up Edo state ;-) * at my bros graduation,and Idont think he earned his money honestly....
One thing I love is the people, I love how warm and welcoming many Nigerians are, I love how dramatic we are too, haha never a dull moment!
Its not always greener on the other side, sometimes we all wish we were in a different city or country or our circumstances were different, and sometimes when we experience what we were yearning for, we look at it differently because its not the same. Sometimes looking at the 'big picture' helps us see things in another way...
I dont want to be in a relationship unless the guy is : 1. a christian. 2. doesnt smoke 3. respects his mother/sister. other females and women in general 4. is a gentleman.
I cant change how He has made me, I see one thing and others see another. Its okay to look in the mirror and like what I see, and its okay to look cute! (im such a tomboy mehhn)
I cant be bothered with those who dont bother with me, sometimes I reach out to my cousins distant and immediate( most in naija, or UK), and talking to them but I dont always get the response ( if i get one at all ) I hope for. Maybe they think Im their annoying 'akata' cousin , idk or maybe they dont want to talk....ive tried soteeeyyy... 'bemayhalouyeh' ( wetin i wan come do again?)
I love naija movies, especially anything with mr ibu( dunno his real name) in it -or those two little boys (abi na men?)
I want to wear those coral beads at my traditional wedding ( if i get married) and I dont want any take away plates at the reception... my wedding no go turn to fast food joint ohh-mba!, where somebody ( most likely college kids) go just come clear all d food/drink commot...haha it cannot happen! lol
Traveling really opens up the mind, its so freeing and exciting to be in a new country, so different from your own, and just explore it, eat the native foods and just relax....
Sacrificing beauty for comfort is a no-no, when your feet look like mince meat at the end of the night, na ur wahala b dat
Its easier said than done.
Old people are sexual beings too , no matter how much we try to ignore the fact !! lol
Not all guys are the same
Running into ppl from highschool is embarrassing especially when they ask why im not in florida/california/texas ( i was in one of these states for school previously before i came home)...um because imgoingdoingaschoolyearabroadandineedtotakeonemoreclasstoqualify...hahaha thats my excuse o!
Nigerian parents love to say "my daughtaah/son is in *insert prestigious univeristy here* he/she is studying * insert medicine,law,engineering,business, or accounting*
im ourra here, and i need a vacation jare....
nice post, babe. It makes sense on all levels. Speaking of ogbono, now my longa throat is kicking in. I might have to make some over the weekend and eat with some eba.
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sounds good, seems like u learnt a lot and it has made you a better person
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What a compilation, you've really learnt a lot and I do hope it shows growth and breadth on your part. Enjoy the rest of your week.
ReplyDeleteNice post. i agreed with u on most things but on some other things i did not. U clearly statd u think the man earned his money dishonestly but u don't know that for a fact...
ReplyDeleteSo do not assume stuff u don't know to be true..
Babe,this one na real lesson o.......I think your right abt the whole "rich getting away with anything" part.......
ReplyDeleteGud to knw that '09 has made you a better person!
Woa looks like you had 2009 on lock down..or is it the other way round now.
ReplyDeleteLongy?? What is longy again??! LMAO I've never heard that one before! I used to think there was something seriously wrong with me when old men hit on me. Now I've accepted that there is something seriously wrong with THEM! But it's not completely their fault o! Blame the useless girls that agree for them because they have money! And dressing provocatively...I'm all for showing skin mehn but there is a limit. Girls nowadays don't know that! They are suffering my eyes. It's an eye sore I tell you. I love butter icing cake :) You can be anything you wanna be. All about determination. I don't mind if the guy isn't a muslim though I know my parents would have a problem with it. I just want him to believe in God, not smoke or be a drunkard and all the other things you said.
ReplyDeleteYou really love Nigeria o! Those cousins of yours...Don't worry I will fight them for you. Or send my "boys" to deal with them hee hee hee
OH wow, I enjoyed reading this. You had me laughing on several things listed...ie, not wanting to take plates out on your wedding, lol. Well, I hope that next yr for the both of us well be Wonderful and Prosperous!
ReplyDeleteWell, you have raised good points. But he get one point wey i bow for "Relationships are hard work", no be small thing. I no go try am again. lai lai
ReplyDeletesolomon thanks!! lmao @ long throat my sisters fav saying lol!
ReplyDeleteneefemi, alopecia is an auto-immune skin disease of the scalp, causing hair loss.
myne, thanks!
Azazel, actually it is true, but i didnt want to fully conclude to the fact because i do not know/care if hes made his money in other ways apart from stealing from the hard working people of Edo state.
my world, yea it had my eyes have been wide open this whole yr!
blogoratti, na i had 09 on lock!! lol
ladyx, idk ooh, anoda guy even called her "mammy long legs" lmao!! but surely there must b something wrong wit these old men if they are hitting on girls their own daughter's age o!
LadyA, in jesus name, amen :) and i mean it oh, no tek away plates oh!! ;-)
m1ike, lol, ur right, no be small thing, but u must try till u get am right sha,but 2010=no relationships for me!! :)
Omo! this your list take style long o! but I feel you on most of them. Lol at naija parents and their show off with schools & degrees, on relationships I agree it's hard work but I think ppl need to learn not to lose themselves in it. Are you bini?
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