Its like deja vu all over again.
exactly two years ago on my 18th birthday ( or I guess the morning after) I met this ghanian dude at a graduation party. He was really nothing special, he was short with dark skin and funny pointy ears that stuck out like car doors. Me being Nigerian must have caught his interest because he would not stop talking about the ' Nigerian girl out on the front porch'. He even told me that he used to live and work in Lagos ( the only Nigerian city that non-Nigerians seem to know) and how he loved it there. At 18, getting male attention was quite new to me and whether he was approaching me for sex or for a relationship was way beyond my thinking. I let him pressure me into doing things that I vowed never to do with a man other than my husband and although we did not have sex, I was left feeling extremely guilty.It was only after I stopped talking to him that I put two and two together and everything clicked like ' oooh ok, thats why he wanted to talk to me'...
At 20:
I met a Naija dude, more specifically igbo, at this party ( again on the morning after my birthday) and I still have some of the same tendencies of the past ( when I was 18) because I was totally unaware of the fact that this guy was staring at me the whole time, and trying to get me to dance. I will admit though, he had a presence that caught my attention but I had met him a few months ago at a movie premiere but I have a feeling that he didn't know who I was, so I left it alone. We were on the back porch and he began telling me how beautiful I was and how he wants to show me what he can do in the bedroom ( ermm ok..) I didnt second guess myself this time because he was honest and straight forward atleast I didnt have to wonder why he was really talking to me. This man was approaching me simply to 'sample' my body and move on to the next one. if this had happened only two years ago, I probably would have been too naive to know what this dude really wanted. Its funny how in a space of just two years we grow and learn what to do and what not do, life experiences really do help us become wiser and avoid the same mistakes, thus the difference between 18 & 20 is clear!
i wonder what he was thinking when he said that...did he expect you to jump at the opportunity to test his skillz in d bedroom? what an airhead! lol what am i even saying? thank God he was straight forward so you didnt have to waste your time trying to figure out what his intentions were.
ReplyDeletewatch out for the next day after your 21st! (there seems to be a pattern here lol) ...and try and let go of the guilt completely :) no use for extra baggage.
They happen in threes my dear. They do. Who knows what to expect on your 21st. lol. Truly Amusing story hehehehe :)
ReplyDeletematurity is good...
ReplyDeleteI look back too, and see how I have grown and matured. Now I have more respect for those who are older than me and what experience and years have added to their wisdom.
ReplyDeleteI met a dude too over the weekend and he was also telling about his bedroom skills, in the space of 1 year i have grown not just in age but in experience.
ReplyDeleteToo true. The same can be said about my experiences when I was (slightly) younger (lol not that much older now but it's so cool to say that). We really do learn quickly. Good stuff
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