According the 'programme' on the tables at the wedding, an Igbankwu is a Nigerian wedding consisting of
-the bride looking for her bubby
-the grooms family greeting the brides family
-prayers etc...
-masquerades
I cant really remember what the rest of it consists of but it was actually quite exciting because I've never been to a Nigerian Traditional wedding (but i went to 4 white weddings this month alone),but the most exciting part was when she took the palm wine and was looking for her hubby...how cute!
I really learned sooo much about how we do our traditional weddings, I learned that each tribe does their own thing. Igbo people do theirs very traditional as in they really go by the 'books', plus they do the whole 'look for 'ya' husband ' thing with the palm wine.I also noticed ( at the igbo wedding n the yoruba one i went to) that igbos don't do the whole lace/gele thing its more of a yoruba thing, because the geles look on point and the aso ebi is crazzzyyy as in, i cant even describe it...no offense to igbos,biko its nothing personal ;-) Yorubas do the whole postrate thing...and I heard akwa iboms do this thing where the bride has to cook a couple different dishes of soup to see if she can cook...when I heard this, I was sitting there like what the...? they really cant be serious
((*crosses akwa ibom men off the list for potential hubbies))
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As for the groom and the bride, hmm lets just say the guy looked miserable ( like he was going to the electric chair) and the bride was waving like miss America....the place was packed with people obviously just trying to be nosy and see whats going on. I found it so strange that the parents of the groom were going along with everything like everything was peachy keen, when they really had a hidden agenda....but hey who knows, the rumors could be false, maybe they are getting married on their own terms not their parents, i really don't know or care because the only thing i wanted to do at that wedding was eat!. I saw a couple getting married ( next yr) I bet you they were thinking : 'our wedding will be better than theirs' lmyo ( laugh my yansh off) I'm sure all couples do that, but the way the bride to be's mom is going on and on about her daughters wedding hopefully it is! in short the guests berra be eating from golden spoons and dipping strawberries in a chocolate fountain...lmyo
All this wedding talk is making me want to get married myself! cant wait for that day!!
until next time.
td.
I dunno but for me this traditions aren't as exciting as before and i don't think is something I want to go thru @ all.
ReplyDeleteIts always fun to see peoples fantastic ideas come 2geda in weddings, but mehn all dese ceremonies na stress...think registry and big reception now, lol
ReplyDelete@ fish, i dont think they are as exciting in the US...but i really don't know much about it
ReplyDelete@gumbler, i know its stressful! weddings in general...i know a couple thats doing a trad.in naij n white in the US...now THAT is stressful...
Lol...I'm looking forward to my trad wedding...Edo traditional weddings are very rich too...But Edo men are definitely off my list!
ReplyDeleteIgba Nkwu is an IGBO wedding...
ReplyDeleteOh, and most Nigerian "traditional" weddings aren't traditional at all anymore... especially the Igbo ones. The outfits are all wrong, the music is all wrong... the people invited are all wearing the wrong thing, nobody even knows how the wedding is supposed to go anymore.
I really love d yoruba traditional engagement, cos of all d 'drama' involved in it.... I think as compared 2 d igbo igbankwu ceremony, it's d groom n his family dat come pleadin 4 their iyawo......lol
ReplyDeleteTrue traditional weddings are more a fashion show extravaganza these days, but I LOVE them, I personally prefer it to the white wedding. If there is a really senior elder in ur family it's better to consult with them to make sure you get the exact way things are meant to be done.
ReplyDeleteAlso cos people are marrying to other groups, there's a lot of mixing of traditions for example, igbo & yoruba couples. They have to do 2 ceremonies in a day, that's time and money. Meanwhile the bride & groom just want to get married without all the extra fanfare and call it a day lol.
OOOOH this was funny!!
ReplyDeletei really want to go for an Igbo wedding, I have seen my own share of Yoruba trad. weddings to last me eternity. The Aso ebi thing may be fine, but the fights it causes ehn.
For the akwa-ibom people, If they will allow me to cook, Indomie, dodo, rice and maybe Yam then Ahhh I have entered my husband's house!!
I love traditional weddings as in that is the least we get to experience our culture.
ReplyDeleteI know about this,but never knew the name,thanks for the information :)
ReplyDeletePS: in time,we'll sure email our congrats after yours :))
I know I have commented on your blog so many times but it doesn't show..
ReplyDeleteI hope this does..
I was here.
nice..
ReplyDeletepoor thing..the man looking miserable is just a horrible thing on your wedding day..
@Zel lol why do u cross out edo men?
Na wah. I ain't going thru no tradi marriage, and moreover, early marriage na for weak people wey fear, fear their "get married, get married" nagging parents. Smh.
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