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I've got so much to say

Its been a while since I last blogged and I've got lots of things to lay down for you ppl here on blogger. I been so caught up with the Haiti earthquake diaster and the relief efforts so I havent been on here much, plus I been doing lots of reading :) I've started school and everything...I'm taking 5 classes, and I dont have classes on Friday, which means one or two things: catch up on sleep, or catch up on homework, maybe even  hit the gym... Yea my mother signed me up for the gym, I'm not really getting fat but, I'm wat you would call "skinny-thick" I tend to pack on pounds around my hips/thighs/butt area ( pear shape, I suppose) and I'm trying to slim down a few, you know get the waist tiny again and all that good stuff.




 during  winter break, myself, my sister and two of my 'infamous' family friends that ive mentioned on here plus 10 or 11 girls booked a limo to a club in the next city over from ours, and I'm tellin u ppl we were like a hot commodity( no black girls dey for there or what??)...everyone in there was spanish, as in puerto rican/dominican who knows? but out of all the girls who went we were the only black girls the rest were spanish or mixed with something im not sure...it was a funny yet boring night at the club sha...ppl were dancing as if they were either having a seizure or like dogs having sex...like lmao its not that serious..i can go clubbin once in a while but u ppl wey dey go every every weekend...i bow for una...sheitt mehn...lol

one quick little msge :MOUTH OF NAIJA: where is the rest of the series on ur trip to Naija? i may not have been posting regularly but ive been lurking around here n there...oya produce the series fast fast!! lol

I'm excited for the upcoming semester, only about 4 months left( yea I start counting the FIRST day of classes). The only thing that is going to be taking up most of my time is A & P..hmm and no be say i wan do medicine oo, dem no send me! Well ok-- maybe I have been thinking of doing medicine but im really not sure, I dont know if I can take on science and math and do well with it so I'm going to test the waters and see what happens...ever heard of anyone doing law and medicine? abi i wan run madddd??!

Leksai ( formerly known as olu) is a very stupid person indeed. We have started talking again ( as friends, because after reading all those christian books I've decided hes definately NOT the kind of guy I need in my life)and he told me some things that made me QUITE uncomfortable. He told me that while we 'werent together' during the naija indy parade he got 'intimate' with some girls, then he goes on to later say that it was only one girl ( what a loser). 

him: I was intimate with some girls during the naija indy parade

me: Yea I know, I had my suspicions, but I just didnt want to say anything. I'm not stupid. You were talking to some chick on the phone at like 8 in the a.m. now dont tell me that was one of your boys...

him; *stuttering and stammering* how how did you know?

me: I just did, when do u think I was born? plus, thats what ppl who really have no morals do, they hook up with ppl they dont even know and the naija indy parties is the best time to do stuff like that...

* he really had the audacity to be mad at me, because I knew about it all this time and didnt tell him* lwkmd! i hope he rly wasnt serious 


me: what do you mean by intimiate? sex or...??

him: well umm....I mean its whatever u want it to mean. It didnt work out so I ended it with her...( yea sure)
me: why cant you just come out and say it. Say you had sex with the girl or girls...

*silence*

him: do you hate me now?

me: I've definately lost respect for you, because you are just like every other guy, you have no self control either...then you open ur mouth and say you have respect for women...yea right. I cant be mad at you either since you said we werent together, yet when I confronted you about the train situation you were arguing about the fact that we were still together during that time ( naija indy parade) and it was  honest of you to tell me, you could have hidden the fact...if u did it because of sex, then look at all ur past relationships...you've had sex with all your girlfriends and not ONE of your relationships really lasted...so that goes to show, that sex doesnt even make relationships better, they do more harm then good. I DONT GET WHY SOME GUYS CAN USE A GIRL ( HAVE SEX WITH HER) AND DISCARD HER LIKE A PIECE OF TRASH...IF THAT WAS YOUR OWN SISTER NKO? WHAT WILL YOU DO? JUST BECAUSE A GIRL presents her self as trashy,classless etc doesnt mean its an  opportunity to 'score'....

him: blah blah blah ( i cant hear him because i pulled the phone away from my ear so i couldnt hear him lmao)

*silence*

him: do you want me to come for valentine's day?

me: No, you don't have to come at all. Stay where you are.

him: You know during that time, you were all I could think about, I think about you all the time...I still look at your pictures...

me: oh, thats nice.

-we started talking about something else and somehow this convo started:-

him: do you want me to introduce you to a friend of mine? ( hes SOOO manipulative and insecure)

me: ummm...no? why?

him: because im sure you would want him instead of me

me: who said I want you or your friend?

him: ok, nevermind.

me: yea, nevermind is correct, who sent you msg anyway?

* awkward silence for about 5 1/2 minutes lol*

we had another convo that went like this:

him: my friends all think I had sex with you

me: did you tell them that we didnt?

him: I just keep quiet,if they assume then thats their problem, what happens behind closed doors is my buisiness.

me: why cant you just say : no,  i didnt have sex with her?

him: they would kind of be looking at me in a weird way, like im 'weak' they would say '"common man, you had her in your room and you didnt do anything?" and they would look at you the same way...

me: you and your friends have a very messed up, immature, highschool mentality...are relationships all about sex? why cant  you be different from your friends?

him: well yea, your suppose to have sex with your girlfriend....my friends know me and they know what I can do, they know that once I have a girl in my room that anything can happen... ( eww...he comes off as a male-whore)

me: interesting...i hope you dont expect some other guy to treat your sisters with respect..

* that statement set him OFF...lmao so he starts going on and on blah blah im really not even listening to him anyway...he never makes any sense and my comebacks always make more sense...and they often make him look stupid lmao*

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we get to talking about other stupid irrelevant things and he feels all weird now because of what he told me, im watching a movie so im not really paying him any attention...I'm really over the whole thing..the convo soon ended and i knocked out..but a  guy like that cant be trusted even in marriage, what happens if his wife has to go away on a buisness trip for a week? or what happens after she has a baby and cant have sex for a couple of weeks? What will he do? masturbate? or sleep with a co-worker?? I mean NA WA  for guys like him o, -smdh-me I cant deal with that...its not my portion jo.Its very simple: why should i give you my body when you havent made a commitment to me i.e marriage?

 ...he somehow acts like im lucky to be with him lmao pshhhh...like i cant do better? watch me!! 

You know, now I finally realize why hes been asking me who the guys are that Ive been talking to, its because hes been talking to other girls...hmmm so ppl who are 'cheating' always accuse or assume their partners of cheating as well...because of the guilt they are feeling...I feel like cursing him, but let me not waste my time/breathe. I knew it was a mistake even talking to his stupid self. 

Anyway this semester i really cant be talking and socializing...most of my classes require LOTS of work online and as well as the classroom, I'm going to be really busy. I need to get my credits so I can get movin this fall...una know say i wan transfer next semester shey?! I feel like college is an undercover scam...they make you pay insane amounts of money for a txtbook that will probably be of no use to you later in life, then you have to take out loans which you cant pay back not even in your life time. But hey, what can we do...education helps a lot but this my friends, is orchastrating a SCAM...they can say what they want about Nigeria..but Americans scam the living hell out of its own citizens and non-citizens alike just as much...they are just scammers with suits,ties and brief cases as far as I'm concerned!

I got a juicer too btw, I will now be juicing all my fruits and veggies for 'maximum health' lol.

The snow over here wants to kill me. Snow today, tommorow the sun is shining, then' next tommorow' (lol) the wind is blowing. That is why florida is calling my name...I shall be back there soon...all my friends down there are in total enjoyment..as in theres is on a kentro level...confammeddd!! lmao ( my new word..got it from dj zeez lmao). 

----I know I'm all over the place but I told you ppl in my title : I've got so much to say!!!----

So a couple of days ago, I went to my friends place, and after I left I got a call from one razz kenyan boy I used to work with, one yeye guy like that...I picked up and asked him what he was calling me for, turns out I accidentally called him ( my phone is mad) so we were talking and he asked me if i was going back to school and this and that blah blah...and he then told me he was in an accident with another stupid guy i used to go to school with and work with...if u hear this guys accent ehn? like omgoodness...he makes this horrible attempt to sound somewhat 'american' if thats what u would call it but this guy gets an f++++++...as in i just want to say: " worra heck!! shurrruuupp!!! the noise coming from that hole in your face is irritating...abeg carry ur yeye accent go dat side"...shietttt..him and his headband and basketball shorts...who wears basketball shorts in january?.so the kenyan dude asked if i was coming to see them...i said ok, so i got to the hospital and these two fools were acting as if i begged them to come to that stupid hospital...I came to see if you ppl were ok, me i didnt send u ppl msge to start driving around the whole city because u ppl have nothing berra to do ( especially when u dont go to school and have free time on ur hands 24/7) the kenyan guy was making it worse because he was insinuating that me and the naija guy were "lovers" ( his words not mine )because we used to 'talk'...lmao...we never talked. I dont even like the guy....anyway i kuku got to my feet and left their sorry selfs there and went home...i still havent gotten around to txting that kenyan guy and giving him the verbal abuse of his life...ode.

Things really are looking up,and Ill be busy for the next couple of months:

from march thru august then september and december...

.........
 im off this yooooooooo




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Haiti on my mind

Yes, I know everyone has been talking about the earthquake in Haiti that happened this past Tuesday, January 12th, but I have to add my own opinion on it.
Even though I have no ties to Haiti, I feel somewhat affected by what is going on because just like a fellow Nigerian is my brother or sister, I look at the people of Haiti like my brothers and sisters. The amount of assistance that people from all over the world are giving to the island and people of Haiti is incredible! There are doctors,nurses,volunteers,missionaries and military personel helping their fellow human beings as best as they can. Dr. Sanjay Gupta and Wyclef Jean has really inspired me in more ways than one, they are AWESOME . Dr. Sanjay has really inspired me to go into the medical field, especially after seeing him treat a 15 day old baby...

It really is nice to see people of all races/backgrounds and religions reaching out to help the people of Haiti.Even hollywood stars,big buisnesses and professional athletes are helping out. Texting to Wyclef Jean's charity 'yele' and redcross ( among other charities) has become the main way to donate, which I have already done but I want to do so much more. Social networking websites like twitter and facebook have helped tremendously, as in I was shocked ( the internet really is a life saver) people were able to post pictures of their loved ones on the internent ( CNN) and get responses as to their whereabouts.

My mother is trying to collect clothing/blankets for the people of Haiti, because some of her haitian friends( one of her friends nephew was the only survivor in his house) have said that people are sleeping without blankets and it gets really cold  at night. Around my way there are lots and lots of food/clothing drives held at churches and other places where people can drop cans of food and blankets...Thinking of the people of Haiti also makes me think of how we ( people living in highly industrialized nations) tend to complain A LOT ( myself included) we complain about everything from the people at mcdonalds putting pickles on our cheesburgers when we specifically said ' no PICKLES', we complain about how we have absolutely nothing to wear, when in fact we have closets  FULL of clothes. Compared to about 90 % of the world, we have an overabundance of COMFORT  and I don't need a statistic to tell me that. We have access to food,healthcare,transportation,and clothing. I try to keep in the back of my mind ( in every situation ) that it could be worse and that someone in another part of the nation, world, city or town may have it worse than I do. The people of Haiti don't deserve this despite what people are saying about Haiti 'making a deal with the devil'.

As I make preparations  to head to Port-Au-Prince, I will pray for those lost in the earthquake and the families who have lost loved ones....

feeding false information??

 Its  always nice to hear other perspectives on our country Nigeria isnt it? Even if its from a Nigerian.  Some family friends and I( and my sister) were talking about Nigeria ( at ihop lol), well mainly because a group of haitian abi na black american guys came up to us and asked us where we were from( yea our beauty was just  too mush for them o! lol) and we said Nigeria, so our family friends ( 2 sisters who btw were born/raised here) said "We are from Nigeria, but we hate that place, that place is condemmed" ( these 2 have only been there once, when they were 1 and 4, do 1 and 4 yr olds really remember traveling to another country??) The guys were laughin n saying yea we dont want to go to Haiti ( can u blame them?)Then one of the sisters asks my sister ( who went to naija in 99) what is there to do in Nigeria anyway?( my sis had tooo much fun in naija she didnt even want to come back )She was askin this question  as if the whole country is a bush with wild animals running everywhere...can u imagine? They really sounded like typical naija-american kids o. I was sort of looking them from another pov, as in I was looking at them from a real naija pov...some of my fellow naija- americans really surprise me o. I mean wow, I'm no expert on Naija  but I know my stuff about the country...I know that people do have fun just like anywhere else...but to say the place is condemmed and that u hate the place is a little harsh...I just hope its not their mother and/ or father feeding them those kind of ideas about the country because quite frankly life doesnt end and begin in America..sheesh!! opening up the mind to different cultures is truly liberating...like foreal some ppl need to relax cuz they feel as though america is the best thing since sliced bread and cable tv...




I'll be babysitting all week, the job I applied to...hmm i waiting for them to call me n tell me when orientation is going to be...the semester is starting in what? idk three weeks or something.vacation so far has been anything but exciting i feel like a nanny-babysitting my cousins everyday like i dont hv a life...havent registered yet...the financial aid ppl r messin with me...and my hopes for transfering are dashed...im getting a crazy/funny/weird/negative feeling that i wont get accepted to where i want to go n that def. scares me...

Cant think of a title ( I guess thats it right there smh!)

Ok so tell my why  my dad has a facebook account and why  my mother want to start one? Na wa for some parents sha... they are all jumping on the facebook wagon...dem send una? Even highschool and middleschool studentshave facebooks..and facebook can cause trouble sha as in couples break up because of fbk and people stop being friends because of it..all i know is that my dad berra not friend me.hes gonna get IGNORED! lmao i know how he is...he'll be snooping around and em barrazzinng me with comments like "yo yo yo wassap kiddo"? or whats d dealio ni99a? yea my dad is not a normal nigerian father...


I was listening to Minister Louis Farakhan yesterday...he had me rolling...he basically was saying howAmerica's time is up...he said colleges invite young people to go to school, young people eventually get into debt because of loans and then they graduate with degrees that they can't even use.That is just fraud. The colleges know this before hand that students will go to their school and become engulfed in debt that they will be paying until they die. 


People often get the idea that because you go to school/graduate in the US, that you will get a job. No one is guaranteed anything. There are people who are engineers who work in nursing homes, there are poltical science majors working in inner city schools. The recession isnt an excuse. He said America is run on pills: you want to go to sleep? take a pill. You want to wake up? take a pill? You want to eat ? take a pill. You have indigestion? take a pill. Cant walk right? take a pill . You have pain? take a pill.....it was just too hilarious and true at the same time. He was basically exposing the country for what it is.


 He was also interviewed by Mike Wallace and the topic about Nigeria came up ( about how corrupt it was) and Louis Farrakhan just burried Wallace with his mouth sha...he said how can America talk about being corrupt when its shed the blood of so many including Native Americans and the Koreans when they dropped nuclear bombs...when Wallace asked him if he can think of another nation as corrupt as Nigeria he said " yea I'm living in one"

The speech/interviews were old but I thought I'd share :)

My brother is finally learning pidgin...sometimes he sounds so bad that I just have to laugh...his american accent mixed with pidgin is something else like LWKMD!!! I know I might sound funny to people who grew up speaking it but lmao his own is on a kentro level like damn...He's learning it from all the naija kids in his school..those ones sef...but I like that hes trying to learn it, me I'm already a master at it...I know its not proper english n my cousins say girls shouldnt speak pidgin but its the only thing I can speak..apart from my own language which I'm learning small small... I dont know if its because we are nigerian -american but it cant rly be an  excuse for not knowing/learning our language. It never should be, seeing as we grew up with  our family friends(there are 5 boys and right down to the last born whos 6 yrs old speaks igbo) who are fluent in igbo...and they were born in the states...so whats my parents excuse...hmmm i forgive them sha;  i can go and learn on my own...hmm and blogsville ppl make una get ready oo! as in u all will be giving me online lessons...any language wey una wan teach me oo,i go learn. I wish I went to a college that offers igbo or yoruba classes... I know Upenn does and so does Univ. of Texas...ah well.

Its finally a New Year, so i gotta stop worrying about things I really cant change..n focus on ones that I can. I'm really trying to make changes in every aspect of my life. I know everyone is always vowing to lose weight and what not but i'm really trying to improve myself from the inside first and the religious aspect of my life especially. I want to be content in this new year/decade.

I just picked up a new book at barnes and noble:

A man worth waiting for, how to avoid a bozo by Jackie Kendall. Its really insightful. Its a good christian book,and I rcmend it especially to single women...my next read has definately got to be: The thing around your neck by Chimamanda Adichie, I been hearing some good things about the book... they dont have it over here...(oyinbos for here  no dey like betta thing jare..)

12 random things that I like  ♥

1. the travel channel

2. naija house parries

3. the old nickelodean ( are you afraid of the dark? clarissa explains it all, kenan and kel,all that)

4.being Nigerian

5.road trips

7.the beach

8.chubby babies

9.individuality

10.my long legs

11.ankara dresses

12. a naija guy in traditonal  :)

13. Nigerian parents and how even when they arent trying to be funny, i burst out laughing at them any way ( especially when they get angry lmao)

wait...does anyone know how the makeover in mushin went?

The decade that was.00's

The year is nearly over in a few hours so let me do a quick round up:

January- I transfered back home from the school I went to ( out of state). I was depressed and needed family around me...I started classes at a school 45mins away as opposed to 1274.4 miles away from home..haha

Febuary- I was still in school....not really doing that great....I was losing my hair too and my self worth was already heading down the drain...I met Olu too...

March- I eventually withdrew from school. Stayed home most days...feeling and looking depressed...

April-  Started getting out of my depression little by little...and I discovered a herbal gel treatment from an Israeli biologist..

May-started summer school...started my 2nd job..and I was making pretty good money( well for a college student) like $11.30

June- My birthday...my last yr as a teenager!! 
August-We had to sell the house and move out in 3 days...we were basically kicked out...my father wanted money from it...he never got any. Things only got worse from there...car trouble/bills/court cases

the whole summer was just 'blahhhh' mehnnn

September- started the semester...depression kicked in every now n thenn..

October- My hair/eyebrows/eyelashes started growing back in

November-.....

December-....






 Beauty trend/rituals (s) I loved this decade: red and bright pink lips/ the cat eye/smokey eye/the bronzed look/home made facial masks



Beauty trends/rituals I hated: neon pink/yellow/green nails /  glitter eyeshadow/botox/synthetic extensions




trends I loved:


80's rvival ( only the strong shoulders )

leggings/tights ( but not as pants)


skinny jeans


pencil skirts


shell blouses


tie blouses




cheetah print 


pastel colors 




motorcycle jacket ( kinda getting played out)




over the knee boots


shift dresses






one shoulder dresses





the ones I hated:


low rise jeans


harem pants


'jeggings' 
bell bottoms ( early 00's) 
jerseys (early 00's)



jumpsuits ( early 00's)

bling bling







ripped/distressed jeans





ugly bright colored clothing like the ones they sell at wetseal ( trying to revive the 80's lmao)








In this decade and more specifically in 09 :


we learned to accept all different shapes,colors and sizes of women


Domestic violence/infidelity was openly talked about


a plethora of anti aging products were and still are on the market 


lace front wigs took over...especially on the tyra show/naija movies


twitter/facebook/myspace was the prefered mode of comunication...they also helped spread nasty rumors and ruin relationships


Jon and kate/the duggers/octo mom became overnight celebs


Susan Boyle became a star


Miracle on the Hudson river occured

''balloon boy" made headlines


The stimulus helped revive the economy some what


the rate of unemployment was sky high

houses were getting foreclosed/abandoned - real estate suffered...




Michael Jackson/Farrah Fawcett/Britney Murphy/DJ AM died



Nollywood made its mark

Britney Spears/Whitney Houston made comebacks

Beyonce's " ring on it" video was a internet sensation
Miley Cyrus was a teen idol





I went to college


got diagnosed with alopecia


met olu


I was a pre-teen/and teenager( well im still one till next yr)



Pres. Obama was inaguarated


I started decided to stop being a naive american that never asks questions about why things are they way they are here.... 


I went to elementary,middle,high school and college


went to prom


got my license




the word ' recession' became apart of our everyday vocabulary


"swagger" is  the new cool word...



Women were proud of their curves/bodies


Fashion really and truly evolved


I became more aware of my culture/heritage 


 my cousins were born



I became more aware of extended family members who I'm begining to get to know 


I learned to be patient


I learned how to handle life situations


started blogging


nails/hair were like accessories


youtube sensations became STARS




reality tv shows were the prefered shows to watch on monday/wed. nights


ANTM  was born


I cut/dyed my hair  pixie/mohawk style( '06) 


and the 'rihanna haircut was equivilent to the 'rachael' back in the 90's



blackberries/g1's/iphones/ nextel chirp phones were all kids talked about


everyone had to hv an ipod/wii/ some other high tech stuff


I learned more about Nigeria/ its ppl/tribes



the new generation of the 'super model' emerged ( chanel iman,sessilee lopez,jordan dunn,arlenis sosa)















last thing I ate for breakfast this decade: bagel/ ojay

last thing I ate for lunch/dinner: spaghetti and chicken

last song I listened to: like play- Kelly handsome
last movie I watched: Silent scandals
last movie I watched at a movie theater: This is it
Last game I watched: my brothers against cincinnati 


Usually on new yrs  BET top 100 notarized videos is on then we head out to a house party( like this yr)...this yr is a little different though everyone is everywhere..my cuzzo ditched us like he always does i know ur reading wherever u r ( hope u know say dat one na for u ;-) my brother is in another state..my mom is at work..my sister...hmmm that one is going out..i trust that one ...im just gonna relax i been babysitting all day anyway plus it snowed.n its cold...hmmm do ppl party today till new years then party again at night on new yrs??


* what I look foreward to in 2010:
-Leaders that will rebrand Nigeria
-Traveling
-connecting with family( even if i cant stand some of them)
-turning twenrrryyyy
-meeting new people
-strengthening my faith







HAPPY NEW YEAR



see you in 2010!!