Getting hit on by Old Nigerian men

I should start by saying NOT ALL old Nigerian men( "uncles") hit on young girls, anyhow let me proceed.

This has been on my mind for quite some time. I can't understand why old Nigerian men, I'm talking about the ones in their 40's 50's ( I am no where near those ages. thus they are to me, old men) would be trying to 'talk' to girls my age or younger? Don't they have daughters even nieces my age? What do they really get out of it?

Family friend's party:

old Man says : hey baby, is that a cell phone you talkin on or what?
reply: No its fingers  I'm using to talk,( mchewwwww idjiot)
old Man: hey beby gal, why u so rude, I just thought we could know each oda.

Another Family friend's party:

drunk "uncle":

Hey gal, you looking so good &sweet

Can I get ya nomba?

reply: ummm...uncle? its me damsel

"Uncle: Oh im so sorrey, you look so different, so grown

*awkward*

Its not as if these men don't know some of the girls they hit on, most of them are family friends!!! Some of them really push it and their wives are blind and or deaf to most of their husbands nasty little antics. They deny it because they know their husbands, they can't be that slow. I've found ( from watching so many Nigerian couples around my way) that Nigerian women like to shield or protect their husbands when they misbehave, almost like a child! They make excuse after excuse. Ok, lets say the hubby beat his wife. This is the wife's excuse : oh, he didnt mean it, ( even though he almost killed her) let me just hang in there for the children.

He cheated  ( she turns a blind eye) she says: As long as hes taking care of me & my kids...or as long as I don't find out about it or the usual one : LET ME JUST HANG IN THERE FOR THE KIDS....

Hubby molests the little girl down the street.

Wife says : Oh, he was just playing now, thats how we play in Nigeria( this was actually said by someone)...he was only kidding or he must have brushed up on her by an accident.

Oh please.

When are some Nigerian women going to stand up and say what is right? Do they have to let their husbands nearly kill them before getting out of the marriage or does he have to impregnant the 18 yr old down the street?? na wa o.

I know a couple around my way. 

The wife works like a slave. Morning-night-night-morning. You never see this lady at home. The husband  is unemployed AND he took her money, went to Nigeria, built a house ( and bought  a lexus that he sent over to naij) and keeps his other wife in it. Can you imagine that? I'm working here ( like a slave) in this country and another female is in Nigerian enjoying a house/car that she didnt work hard for??? Hahahah not in this life time lai lai, either I burn that house or I sell it. 


 Its not very surprising that many Nigerian girls ( my age and younger ) don't want to marry a Nigerian. With all the scandals thats going on, you really can't blame them. But we all should take heart. Not all Nigerian men are like that, I know that for a fact. 

However I don't know not one friend ( ok maybe one or two)or family friend whose father doesnt have some sort of secret child or children with  a black american or  non-Nigerian/african, or who hasnt cheated on their mothers.

Its really sad actually. I'm not saying that all Nigerian men cheat or that all men cheat , im only speaking ( typing) about what i've seen. I remember  when a woman ( in the nigerian community around my way) posted pics of her hubby and some lady naked in a hotel. 

She put him on blast, sending those pics to everyone she knew, there wasnt a man,woman or teenager who didn't see those pictures...some people talked about it for some weeks...

but a new piece of gossip had everyone talking: a man (  Nigerian) gave his wife full blown AIDS. Things like that just make me sad. I'm  not judging all these people, but then who are they to start talking about others when they arent saints either?




Despite all the sorry excuses for men, that ive come to know or maybe only heared about it, I want to get married. Getting married won't define me, but its something I know I want..and I would prefer to marry a Nigerian man,  ( not a boy) a man who's strong, has goals,self control and doesn't expect to be treated like a baby.

But I know I can't settle, because what you settle for is what you get...


Happy April fools day btw

I got fooled by a friend, all the way in Miami...smh!

Lust list

All from NastyGal

Nigerias Image

Just thought this was interesting/kinda funny....im off to read ( and comment on )  some blogs....

found it on http://www.234next.com/

Some pics from the concert

I forgot to mention that ikechukwu ( next to the big guy wearing black) was there as well. Don jazzy was there too, looking real crazy...notice the pic where dbnaj is pointing to wande...thats where the song goes " orobo too bad"...lmao

Wande Coal- Spring Break-Health Care

Its been a while since I last posted. Like a little over 2 weeks. I feel sort of strange, kinda like a student who has been absent from school for a while and has to catch up with the work they've missed. I've really missed blogsville sha.

anyway the wande coal concert was real good. I wasnt in any of the pics on linda ikeji's blog but I was in some pics on other websites, I think.

The venue: the place where they held the concert was in a warehouse looking place, just broke down and crazy looking ( to me at least) they call this "club" cpac ( lmao). The tickets were $40, and if ur a real big spender it was $60 PLUS $650 or $1,200 or $1,500 ( guess which one I paid for lol, im a college student o!) for these so called VIP tables with moet and nuevo. There were no seats for everyone who paided the regular fee, as in you were either standing around, taking pictures, in the restroom or doing a two-step. The place was PACKED.


The performances: They were just o.k. lots of jumping around  talkin about "swagga swagga" y'know the whole spiel. There was a girl who sang, and she was really good, but everybody else was just ok . One girl even yelled out " abeg commot for stage, I didn't pay to come an see nonentities, commot for stage! idjiots!" she was MAD LOUD, but she spoke for the masses, forreal.


The Guys: were typical dudes...grind on anything with a skirt/dress and or heels.I dont why, but almost every guy was dressed like one of those 'cool' geeks, I guess thats what you would call it. Some kinda Kanye west/kid cudi thing going on...so annoying and also complete with mohawks and bowties.


The Girls: hmmmm....this wan is tough oh. Ok so let me put it like this: overexposure,overexposure,overexposure. To the max. Lots of shakara as well. Some girls really looked classy though complete with nice makeup and hair. Then there were girls at the opposite end of the spectrum. Bad weaves, makeup, everything.


At one point the Dj/host asked if everyone was having a good time, with which no one responded, lmao.

But when Wande Coal came out  the place when WILD. One thing for sure is wande got BIG/fat.Like wow, talk about too much good food, can't blame the guy. E don grow, e no only grow omo e don blow, e no only blow omo e get dough. Theres too mush money in his agbada lol. Dbanj then came out ( his fashion sense, na wa o! i think almost everyone on stage at this point in time needed a stylist) and this dude started doing like some kind of kung fu, karate thing, his leg up and his hands doing some sort of twisting motion, my sister and my cousin looked at each other and nearly fell over with laughter. I felt bad for Wande,because once Dbanj came out, all the attention shifted to him, and Wande is the one with the real talent. When they played 'you bad' theres a part in the song where he says 'see dis lepa lepa too bad oh', they pointed at dbanj,and when the part that says ' orobo too bad oh' Dbanj points at Wande and Wande points to another fat guy on the stage. LMAO. Good times sha.

After the concert, you know naija ppl now, cops were outside to make sure everyone left, but Nigerians? hmmm everyone was playing one song or another in their cars while passing out invites to the timaya/bracket concert in April....it was raining and cold and the taxi ppl werent picking up...I guess my sister caught one guys eye because he said " i like the lady in the blue, do you need a ride?" this dude was drunk as all hell,  just talking nonsense. We  were freezing so we accepted. It took like 20mins or more just to get in the car because these guys had girl friends who they were suppose to give rides to. They kicked the girls out because of theirbad attitudes and we got in. Dude goes " you girls are very attractive, then goes on to say " the one in the middle ( my cousin) is beautiful, the one on the left and right (me and my friend) are jast gals"....lmho, thats all I could do o!! that was insult number 1. insult number 2 was directed at my friend " see dis imo girl, u don see as e dey bleach?" ( idk how he could tell she was from imo state) hmmm that whole car turned into a mild version of WW II. My sister was riding in another car  with the cutest guy in the bunch ( who she later found out was from Edo state, i trust that girl,..she eventually got his number) the drunk guy eventually forgot about 'the lady in blue' and proceeded to get my cousins' number)


We got in at like 5:30 maybe 6, I quickly got ready and boarded a flight to Florida.( made me feel like a celebrity LOL) Spring break wasnt all that exciting ( the weather was quite cold)but I got to seem some friends and I even met Gloria Estefan @ the mcdonalds in Walmart!

The healthcare bill just passed. It could change things, but lets see how it goes
. Healthcare in America still sucks either way. But Obama did something that not many though he could do, so kudos to him.

That week, I had the most fun Ive ever had in months...maybe years. Up next: Timaya/Brackett....


Now that I'm turning 20 heres my list of 20 things I will start doing once I hit the big 2-0

1. Cleanse. I bought a book called the '3-day cleanse' it taught me a lot about how bad the American diet is ( mostly meat/dairy) and how the water bottles used in bottled waters have traces of harmful elements in it ( from the plastic) cleansing really helps with clearing the skin and helping people sleep better and getting rid of most ailments.

2. Pray more, I was brought up a christian and I'm losing touch with my faith

3. Get angry less

4. Go out more, not neccesarily to parties but just out more to different places that I've never been to

5. Travel more. This summer I've got lots of trips planned, hopefully I reach each destination

6. Study more. Nuff said

7.excersize
8.eat less junk
9.Scream less
10. Act a bit more mature
11.Do my own thing more often
12. go on a road trip
13.plan a family reunion...hahaha am i mad?
14.dont open up any more 'accounts'
15.accept things about my self I cant change: physical features
16.inspire and encourage others
17.look for an internship
18.explore a new city
19.keep my self 'up'
20.enjoy the rest of my 20's then make another list when im 30.


Have a wonderful week!

Traveling can be so stressful

That was the list I made today...so I wouldn't forget anything. Excuse the broken nail..I went to fix it today lol

I still havent gotten around to getting my airplugs for the plane but I found my license( right after my job interview)...& excuse my spelling too, I was in a rush!!

This weekend is the WANDEEE COALLLLLL concert/show and I'm excited to go, if any body on bloggsville is going, look for a ridiculously TALLL girl in a blue,sequined dress...Ill be right next to her lol in a Fuchsia colored dress. After the concert/show I'll be catching a flight ( hence the to-do/do-get list)

-oh & I got the job too! :)

Have a nice weekend everyone.

TD.

JOS* My 50th post*

This is my 50th post. I would like to thank everyone who has come by and commented: Myne, blessings outlet, Andrea,Neefemi,2cute,Omotade,Tayement,Solomonsydelle,Rita,Lady X,unwritten,Lady A,Azazel,Kilishie,Chayoma,Mamuje,Naija American girl,Suru,Blogoratti,Yinkusolo,Fragile looks,Jaycee,femme lounge,9jas OT,The girl with the red hair, half & half,Omotee,Shorty,miss b,pink satin,naija mom abroad,elusive babe,my world, mouth of naija,blackrubies,moyo,nosai,lani,p'sy wanna,cerebrally busy,emeka amakeze,nice anon,ms dufa,tatababe,k-bloggers,histreasure,mineexclusively,shadenonconformist,gee,m1ke,hyaw,tia,ovay west,fabulo-la,naijaprincess,juiceegal,hadassah,tisha,odunayo,ebony,yemi david, and last but not least,in the shoes of two geminis.

JOS: the whole thing saddens me.  But it hasnt succeed in discouraging me from going to Nigeria and giving back to the country and its people. All those people are dead now ,for what? why? innocent people, especially children who had dreams& hopes for the future, Children who had soo much to live for, who have not yet seen the world and all that it has to offer. You know, the Nigerian gov't makes me sick. They are failing their people, and they are turning a blind eye to it.

How can people be so wicked? they burnt a child??