I've been discovered!

So my cousin has discovered my blog! I knew I should have made it private lmao. Sh!t.

Hes so sneaky, so he must hv known about it all this while and he never said anything. note to self: clear all blogger windows on computer!!

Neefemi, I guess this is a good time to let you know, that it was my cousin(i.oputa) that told me about your blog and that I should read it. It was kind of funny at first because of they way he mentioned it to me...then he went on to say I had some 'interesting stuff on there'. I'm thinking about all the things Ive writen on here but the more I think about it the more I'm going to get em-barazzed lmao. Oh well, no sweat right. Hes like another brother to me so its not like the things I've said on here I havent said them to him in person....but the way I'm panicking(secretly lol) you would have thought olu discovered it!!!


I know ur reading this!!! Its okay ehn, wait make u no worry,I will be doing my detective work on you... ur eye go neat :)


Semester is finally over with, now its time to write some essays for these schools. I got one BIG reality check on friday, went to my advisor and he told me I need to get my gpa higher or stay at my current school for another full semester ( mba!) so next semester its all work no play. All these schools I want to apply to are all top tier schools...which means they require like 3.7s and higher....

still not into the whole xmas thing, ill just go to midnight mass and go home same with new yrs...im not up for anything at all at alll


I'm off this, its been a long day my cousin turned 8 yesterday so we had a big dinner for her today...the moi moi,jellof rice,meat pie,african salad,plantain,turkey,chicken and cake was too mush haha...my cuzzo came with her oyinbo bf...one auntie goes "haa, u couldnt find a Nigerian boy, there plenty out there. If you get married to him dont invite me o! "



yea 'stale' gist, but what can i say.. I feel like i have to watch wat i say on here from here on out! smh!!

btw, mouth of naija, where is part deux? I'm waiting...oya write am fast fast lol

blaH...

Some random stuff...

1. The Jersey shore is one stupid show, but i like watching it sha, I can understand why italians are angry about it...haa just imagine them doing one about Nigerians 'little lagos' some stupid somethin like that...naija ppl go protest am soteyy lmao.


2. I noticed a lot of Nigerians claiming to be naija-american even though they were born in Nigeria, I'm still trying to figure out how that makes sense. Be proud of who you are/what you represent...smdh


3.. 09 was full of scandals..na wa o...from tiger woods to that gov. of ny...u see a pattern here dont you? ( cough*they both cheated* cough) whats up with all these politians cheating on their wives


4. Moral standards have completely and utterly gone out the window... its completely normal to sleep/hook up with someone you met only 3 hrs ago ...


5. Lagos is number 7 on the largest cities in the world list... 13mil or so...i thought Lagos had more then that...then you got Ny with like 16mil...last time i checked it was 8mil!

6. Enough of the horrible yankee accents...my friends brother: " hay shawree (shawty), warra (wanna)go to de bech (beach)? wor d heck? see ihn mouth like bech


7. My cousin has a bad mouth sha, she was over at our aunts house ( in Germany or Holland idk) and my aunts husband says 'oh its nice you have 3 kids, me and so and so have been trying to have some of our own....dear cousin proceeds to tell hubby 'well if your wife didnt have so many abortions maybe it would be easier for her to get pregnant'... smdh

8.

" whats my concern, thats u peoples own fuckin business if u dont know who they r thats on ya head" - my friend's mother, when she asked her mom who her god parents were ... lmao :)

9. Does it make sense for someone to preach to me about God, then tell me 'oh well if your going to have sex then be safe' na una sabi, cuz me sef im confused...thats just odd.

10. Miami or London??

Dreaming of a Nigeria ...

I'm dreaming of a Nigeria where:


Everyone can get quality education, because its their RIGHT, not because their parents are paying some serious naira for it


Health care is available to everyone no matter how much money you have or who you know at the hospital, why should people be treated at a hospital on a who-you-know basis? or on how much money they have in their pocket?

the roads are better

Jobs are created for university graduates and the rest of the unemployed population

Polititians/Gov't officials stop STEALING ALL THE MONEY and sending their children to TOP-NOTCH schools in the US/UK/Canada and wherever the hell they send them to, while children back in Nigeria dont even have so much as a chair to SIT ON IN CLASS!! These same "politians" take money and never use it to improve the country...


Electricity is constant


Water is readily available --this is a basic human necessity!!

People especially children arent dying of curable diseases

the discrepancy between the rich and the poor doesnt have a big GAPING hole in between...


Citizens know they are secure no matter what

those in diaspora look forward to going to

young people can say: I can STAY in Nigeria and be SUCCESSFUL.

People arent lined up at the US/UK/Canadian/Amsterdam/German/Chinese embassy trying to get out of Nigeria as quickly as possible...


the leaders become an example for other world leaders to emulate


you could say I'm really dreaming, but never say never. I have hope

Just some thoughts

hmmm I dont really know what to post about.... No bad news, but no good news really

Exams are underway( congrats to anyone who just finished the semester, one more to go!)...just trying to plan my winter and spring break, and once again, I've changed everything around!! ughhh soo fustrating!! so now I'm going to London for winter break and Naija in the summer and I'll stay for a month or so ( summer school :-/ ) the rest of my summer will consist of classes and work...anyone know what to pack to naija if im going around june-ish? I was talking to a family friend of mine and she told me that when I go to naija, I will appreciate the US more because of the transportation and I will appreciate naija more because of the culture...i didnt really know what to make of that statement so i didnt say anything...we were also discussing how naija kids born here never really get the opportunity to go to Nigeria....anyway

for spring break I might just go to somewhere cold or I might just go do some work for HFH...dunno yet...everything is going pretty good for the most part, except me feeling like moving out of the country...lol...I always feel like that though so what else is new?!

Not really feeling the whole xmas spirit, I really wish I was spending xmas with a whole bunch of my family members ( most are all in Naija or UK,me sef ive lost track) Christmas in Naija would be out of this world; I can picture it now; food cookin, 1st cousins, distant cousins,aunties,uncles...the television on, everyone talking/discussing, and at the end of the night everyone would be all over the place, some sleeping on the couch, the floor or which ever spot they can find!! But now it seems like no one cares about stuff like that...they are off with their families doing their own thing... now I know what ppl mean when they say to enjoy the little time you have with family until you "grow up" (move out,get married and all that)hmm such is life...

I'm going to a naija xmas parry today ...hmm im sure all the parents will be saying something like this to my mother " i have a son oh" or " please oh, i want my son to stay connected to our culture, i will introduce him to ya daughtah"... its really funny sha... i get a kick out of it everytime...i dont blame them...



For any of you avid book readers,Authentic Beauty:The shaping of a set-apart young woman by Leslie Rudy is a good read...

I just found out that a boy I went to school with ( my freshman yr of college) just died, the happiest, funniest,cutest Bahamian guy you could ever meet. But he was battling his own demons...why are ppl like that the most miserable?


wishin u a wonderful weekend..& study hard for finals!

Onose

More realizations and I truly need a resolution!

update* Olu and I talk sometimes ( he always has something sexual to say, maybe hes trying to convince me to sleep with him which will never happen, and when he starts his sex talk he gets disconnected) and when we do, he tries to act like our whole 'break up' was my fault when hes the one that was acting some how/strange n stupid, he didnt even believe that my friend passed away when I was explaining to him why I havent called him ( so he says) , hes so selfish, always putting what he wants first, and hes never patient. He says hes not used to being patient for what he wants, I told him sorry that the other girls you've dated never told you 'no' or never expected you to be patient. Mehnnnn i no fit stand a guy wey dey act like small pikin, that gets on my NERVES. Well recently I havent talked to him. I'm just sick of his drama, his wahala is just too mush...and in his head he still thought we were getting back together, he even expected me to come to his place for Thanksgiving, ha family no dey again? Hes crazy to think after all that happened I would hop on a greyhound bus to go see him on Thanksgiving ( of all days) and then tell my mother that im going whia? so that she can roast me shey? I think not.I played along with him n whatnot but I'm done, I'm not into guys like him anymore...I thought he was different--but hes in the same category of guys I run from and will continue to run from!


What is it with some people mehnnn?

They say they are Christians or whatever yet they still feel its ok to have premarital sex ( im not judging, but this what Ive observed i mean we all sin, but this one is serious o), why cant people see a good thing for what it is and appreciate it? Why do people have to defile/corrupt things then complain that it is spoiled? Olu claims that his parents taught him about Christianity, and he says hes a Christian, YET he says before he gets married he has to try some 'stuff' with his wife -to -be,umm how does that work? what the * fill in the blank* is that? (see im trying to kick my swearing habit :) Then he says if I lost my vcard at 16, he would have thought I was a slut YET he lost his at 16 (with an older girl!) I can do better than him, I dont see how his view of sex will benefit him in the future, but as long as I'm not in that picture than I'm more than okay, I'm GOOD.


On a much light note, the semester is nearly over, and I decided to do volunteer work ( for xmas/winter break) in Nigeria and do work for Habitat for Humanity for spring break. I hope everything works its self out ( still need to get a visa, yea kinda late but hey..)

What I'm looking forward to ( no particular order):

1. My family friend's graduation
2. A convention in Dallas
3 Indiana in the summer time
4. Fall '10 in philly/la/or Miami
5. A full head of curly hair
6.Xmas '10
7. Four 'white' weddings to attend (all for relatives too!)
8.Buying a car
9. A Nigeria, that future generations will be proud of
10. Cutting people off and out of my life, you ppl should try it, quite liberating really...especially when those people bring you down instead of lifting you up...



New Year resolution:

Live to my highest potential, be the young woman God has called me to be.


...I was at the bookstore today and I saw a magazine ( people) and it was like a yearbook or something on the years 2000-2009. It really hit me --we are at the end of a decade.

kinda scary...it has me feeling like I did when I was 9 back in 1999 ...

Every young woman's battle

I just picked up this book from borders, and so far so good...
It helps you :

-learn how the sexual battle starts in your mind and heart

-understand your hunger for attention from guys

-recognize and avoid the potential pitfalls awaiting young women on the journey toward adulthood and possible marriage.

-find out how the media,novels,fashion,internet chat rooms, body and beauty obsessions influence your sexual choices--and what you can do about it

-guard your mind,heart, and body against sexual and emotional compromise

-develop a deeper,more satisfying level of intimacy with God.

What I've come to realize in oh-9

As 2009 is quickly coming to a close, I've been reflecting on the year and I've learned A LOT ( i didnt list it all though, some of the things ive learned are important n some are no so important :)
Ive learned that:

I'm getting old :) its okay though, with age comes wisdom ..right?! (say yes !)

Just because people get married it doesnt really mean they love each other. Now I dont know about u, but where I live, Nigerian couples seem to all be heading for divorce court oh. Hubby cheats ( and has been doing so for years!) wife kicks him out, wife takes the kids and slaps a divorce on hubby...thats the way it goes usually, and around my way most girls my age say they dont want to marry a naija guy for that reason...smh

Old men are pretty nasty. the 'I.dont.want.you' part is the part they seem hardest to comprehend.
If we ( my sister or friends/cousins) go to a party (naija) this is what we hear lmao: " em excuse me excuse me * annoying tap on shoulder* what is ya name? how can I know jyou( benin accent) or " chei, u are so looking like an angel" and "hey baby, are u talla dan me"? ( my sister got that one) and "hey longy! how are u? I mean I knew old men were nasty but na wa o.


Relationships are hard work. You now have to put that person ahead of you, they become your world, and then suddenly texting/calling seems like a chore!

Dressing provocatively doesnt attract good guys, I mean the ones that actually want to know YOU not your body...


Materialistic things and physical appearance even in all its glory and glitz doesnt last. Ive learned that its not what matters in life, other things are more important and striving for material things and perfect looks its a complete waste of time,theres absolutely nothing wrong with wanting designer clothes n what not or looking good, just gotta keep it perspective....


Nigeria has so much potential, if only the leaders could see that...

I lovee red velvet cupcakes :)


I dont want to be a house wife... ( no man will marry me, lai lai...lol)


Sex is a good thing,at the right time with the right person ( marriage hopefully)


Ogbono soup tastes better when you drink it with water not soda....


Alopecia has opened my eyes a whooolllleeeeeee LOT. I'm a different person because of it, its made me weak but at the same time its made me strong. Its given me low self esteem and its given me high self esteem...but it definately taught me a lot...


I want to be a philanthropist/lawyer/journalist/activist...I believe its possible, its a lot but I can do it ;-)

About Nigeria, Ive learned about its politics, the people, music, its issues and the food. Ive also come to love/hate many things about Nigeria. One thing I hate is the discrepancy between the poor and rich.I hate how governors and political figures or whatever get away with soo much; I dont want to sound as if Ive seen it ,but I mean Ive heard stories and things like that, I mean * insert the thieving benin mans name here, you know the one who messed up Edo state ;-) * at my bros graduation,and Idont think he earned his money honestly....

One thing I love is the people, I love how warm and welcoming many Nigerians are, I love how dramatic we are too, haha never a dull moment!

Its not always greener on the other side, sometimes we all wish we were in a different city or country or our circumstances were different, and sometimes when we experience what we were yearning for, we look at it differently because its not the same. Sometimes looking at the 'big picture' helps us see things in another way...

I dont want to be in a relationship unless the guy is : 1. a christian. 2. doesnt smoke 3. respects his mother/sister. other females and women in general 4. is a gentleman.



I cant change how He has made me, I see one thing and others see another. Its okay to look in the mirror and like what I see, and its okay to look cute! (im such a tomboy mehhn)



I cant be bothered with those who dont bother with me, sometimes I reach out to my cousins distant and immediate( most in naija, or UK), and talking to them but I dont always get the response ( if i get one at all ) I hope for. Maybe they think Im their annoying 'akata' cousin , idk or maybe they dont want to talk....ive tried soteeeyyy... 'bemayhalouyeh' ( wetin i wan come do again?)


I love naija movies, especially anything with mr ibu( dunno his real name) in it -or those two little boys (abi na men?)

I want to wear those coral beads at my traditional wedding ( if i get married) and I dont want any take away plates at the reception... my wedding no go turn to fast food joint ohh-mba!, where somebody ( most likely college kids) go just come clear all d food/drink commot...haha it cannot happen! lol

Traveling really opens up the mind, its so freeing and exciting to be in a new country, so different from your own, and just explore it, eat the native foods and just relax....


Sacrificing beauty for comfort is a no-no, when your feet look like mince meat at the end of the night, na ur wahala b dat


Its easier said than done.


Old people are sexual beings too , no matter how much we try to ignore the fact !! lol


Not all guys are the same


Running into ppl from highschool is embarrassing especially when they ask why im not in florida/california/texas ( i was in one of these states for school previously before i came home)...um because imgoingdoingaschoolyearabroadandineedtotakeonemoreclasstoqualify...hahaha thats my excuse o!


Nigerian parents love to say "my daughtaah/son is in *insert prestigious univeristy here* he/she is studying * insert medicine,law,engineering,business, or accounting*



im ourra here, and i need a vacation jare....